Chocolate Kimchi Mama

lostmymindinseoul:

(Before I write about this argument I had with my friend, I want to say that know that I’m very privileged. I’m white, I’m not disabled, I was adopted domestically in the US when I was three days old. My bio mom interviewed prospective adoptive parents and chose mine, I had an open adoption, I…

Woah woah and WOAH! I’m not adopted but I have had my share of step-parents and I can definitely say that yes, it takes a lot to love a child who isn’t of your flesh and bone, especially when they aggravate the shite out of you, but it’s not impossible and not only am I an example as I have stepsons, but I have a stepmother as well. I can definitely say she is willing to step in front of a bullet for me as am I for my sons.Yet I have some blood relatives whom I wouldn’t touch with a 50ft pole.

I really can’t stand when people read a few articles and then fancy themselves the only living authority of the situation, regardless of whether they have ever experienced it themselves. It’s ludicrous and I’m sorry that someone you consider a friend claims to be so knowledgeable on YOUR situation despite the absurdity of her statements. Especially being she didn’t even seem to WANT to listen to another point of view. A point of view from a legit source….YOU.

bbbesq:

himchi:

claretea:

look-at-that-bowtie:

1. Pride and Prejudice - Jane Austen 
2. The Lord of the Rings - JRR Tolkien
3. Jane Eyre - Charlotte Bronte
4. Harry Potter series - JK Rowling
5. To Kill a Mockingbird - Harper Lee
6. The Bible - Council of Nicea
7. Wuthering Heights - Emily Bronte
8. Nineteen Eighty Four - George Orwell
9. His Dark Materials - Philip Pullman
10. Great Expectations - Charles Dickens 
11. Little Women - Louisa M Alcott
12. Tess of the D’Urbervilles - Thomas Hardy 
13. Catch 22 - Joseph Heller
14. Rebecca - Daphne Du Maurier
15. The Hobbit - JRR Tolkien 
16. Birdsong - Sebastian Faulk
17. Catcher in the Rye - JD Salinger
18. The Time Traveller’s Wife - Audrey Niffenegger
19. Middlemarch - George Eliot
20. Gone With The Wind - Margaret Mitchell
21. The Great Gatsby - F Scott Fitzgerald
22. Bleak House - Charles Dickens
23. War and Peace - Leo Tolstoy
24. The Hitch Hiker’s Guide to the Galaxy - Douglas Adams
25. Brideshead Revisited - Evelyn Waugh
26. Crime and Punishment - Fyodor Dostoyevsky
27. Grapes of Wrath - John Steinbeck
28. Alice in Wonderland - Lewis Carroll
29. The Wind in the Willows - Kenneth Grahame
30. Anna Karenina - Leo Tolstoy
31. David Copperfield - Charles Dickens
32. Chronicles of Narnia - CS Lewis
33. Emma - Jane Austen
34. Persuasion - Jane Austen
35. The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe - CS Lewis
36. The Kite Runner - Khaled Hosseini
37. Captain Corelli’s Mandolin - Louis De Bernieres
38. Memoirs of a Geisha - Arthur Golden
39. Winnie the Pooh - AA Milne
40. Animal Farm - George Orwell
41. The Da Vinci Code - Dan Brown
42. One Hundred Years of Solitude - Gabriel Garcia Marquez
43. A Prayer for Owen Meaney - John Irving
44. The Woman in White - Wilkie Collins
45. Anne of Green Gables - LM Montgomery
46. Far From The Madding Crowd - Thomas Hardy
47. The Handmaid’s Tale - Margaret Atwood
48. Lord of the Flies - William Golding
49. Atonement - Ian McEwan
50. Life of Pi - Yann Martel
51. Dune - Frank Herbert
52. Cold Comfort Farm - Stella Gibbons
53. Sense and Sensibility - Jane Austen
54. A Suitable Boy - Vikram Seth
55. The Shadow of the Wind - Carlos Ruiz Zafon
56. A Tale Of Two Cities - Charles Dickens 
57. Brave New World - Aldous Huxley
58. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time - Mark Haddon
59. Love In The Time Of Cholera - Gabriel Garcia Marquez
60. Of Mice and Men - John Steinbeck
61. Lolita - Vladimir Nabokov
62. The Secret History - Donna Tartt
63. The Lovely Bones - Alice Sebold 
64. Count of Monte Cristo - Alexandre Dumas  
65. On The Road - Jack Kerouac
66. Jude the Obscure - Thomas Hardy
67. Bridget Jones’s Diary - Helen Fielding
68. Midnight’s Children - Salman Rushdie 
69. Moby Dick - Herman Melville
70. Oliver Twist - Charles Dickens
71. Dracula - Bram Stoker 
72. The Secret Garden - Frances Hodgson Burnett
73. Notes From A Small Island - Bill Bryson
74. Ulysses - James Joyce 
75. The Bell Jar - Sylvia Plath
76. Swallows and Amazons - Arthur Ransome
77. Germinal - Emile Zola
78. Vanity Fair - William Makepeace Thackeray
79. Possession - AS Byatt
80. A Christmas Carol - Charles Dickens
81. Cloud Atlas - David Mitchell
82. The Color Purple - Alice Walker
83. The Remains of the Day - Kazuo Ishiguro
84. Madame Bovary - Gustave Flaubert
85. A Fine Balance - Rohinton Mistry
86. Charlotte’s Web - EB White
87. The Five People You Meet In Heaven - Mitch Albom
88. Adventures of Sherlock Holmes - Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
89. The Faraway Tree Collection - Enid Blyton
90. Heart of Darkness - Joseph Conrad
91. The Little Prince - Antoine De Saint-Exupery 
92. The Wasp Factory - Iain Banks 
93. Watership Down - Richard Adams 
94. A Confederacy of Dunces - John Kennedy Toole 
95. A Town Like Alice - Nevil Shute
96. The Three Musketeers - Alexandre Dumas
97. Hamlet - William Shakespeare
98. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory - Roald Dahl
99. Les Miserables - Victor Hugo

34. Probably should be more really, but then its not like I am ever going to be reading War and Peace. So yeah. I probably wont be reading any more on that list. 

28?  I was shamed by this… the majority of the books I have skim read and started (as part of my degree and otherwise) but never completed.  So I was very strict with myself and only checked the ones completed… apart from Anna Karenina, as I WILL finish it this month!

I forgot to add that I am ashamed with my number. I will not disclose. I am a nerdy, nerdy person. For mother’s day, daughter made a card in class. They were supposed to make a haiku describing their mom. Her first two words were “reading alot” (she doesn’t know that a lot is actually two words). So yes, I am a reader.

35 in totality. Some I started but chucked and read spark or cliff notes for a university lit class. Some of them I actually have on my bookshelf now…Minsung calls me a nerd and I wear that title proudly^^

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lostandfoundloveseoul:

girlinseoul:

lostandfoundloveseoul:

So I’m starting to get to the point where I want to ask him if he wants more than just…you know. Because when he comes over that is basically what we do together. Don’t get me wrong I love the …. we do together and I don’t feel like I’m being used. But since it is practically the only thing we do…

again, I wish you would play it cool with the guys for a bit longer. Date…don’t put titles on it. Let it sit for two weeks or three, before you wonder about bf/gf. Don’t have one date and go exclusive.

But each to their own, I don’t expect you to listen to me or even consider my opinion to be even a little bit right. But since this is in a blog environment, I don’t have the luxury of being soft and gentle and understanding you as a person.

But I read your blog, so I want to chuck my unsolicated opinion out there.

I just think it seems to be the same pattern: you meet a guy, you instantly want to make him your bf, and usually do, then stress about things and love/like him much more than he likes you (again, i’m a complete outsider in this situation).

I would love to save you some heartbreak and have you just date, relax and not worry. I just keep imagining if this was my friend sitting opposite me and saying this stuff, I’d want to knock some hard truths into her head.

If you are forcing something to work….that in itself should be enough of a message to you. He doesn’t need to say anything.

First of all thank you for making a response. And I agree with you. I am trying my best to just go with the flow and see how it all develops. But I still have that nagging side to me that is nervous that I’m being played. 

I will see how things go the next time we meet, and try not to push the relationship much. As for loving him more than he loves me, he already said he loves me during our first few meetings, so…he might be ahead of me?!

Anyways…always feel free to respond to my posts. :)

Putting in my .02 cents as well. My husband (Korean-Korean) said he loved me after 2 weeks. I just smiled and said thank you. Because we were still just dating I made sure to play it cool and see where his head was at. I didn’t ignore him or play any ‘fishing’ games though as it’s just not my style. But I didn’t rush to put labels on things before I had really gotten to know him past the chemistry aspect.

It is great to want to be in a relationship, but it does seem to be a fairly predictable patter for you to meet a guy, date for a week or two and then wonder about labels. It creates a lot of stress for you that you don’t need. Just try to relax and really get to know the guy. Definitely create date ideas outside of the apartment. Make sure you have chemistry outside of the bedroom and try to have some fun before tying yourself down…